When You’ve Had Almost All You Can Take

Our marriage like any other has its ups and downs.  We committed early on to never let divorce be an option however, I find myself thinking about actually considering a divorce more and more.  I can’t seem to stop myself from seriously thinking about it.  What else can you do when your spouse will hardly touch you?  OK, so I get a “goodbye” peck in the morning, and a hug occasionally, but that’s all.

If I try to bring it up we end up in a huge fight. I’ve pretty much given up even trying. No one wants someone doing something with them when they know the person doesn’t want to.   This has been going on for 7 years now.  I’m going nuts!

All of this got me thinking. If divorce is not an option, then doesn’t it give a spouse license to do whatever he/she wants since they know you won’t leave?????

Lot’s of folks say to pray.  Been there. Done that.  Nothings is happening.  I try to be quiet and not like the “dripping faucet” in the Bible.  Still nothing.  That just seems like silence is acceptance.

I know God does not want divorce, but it is soooooo hard.

 

Break the Silence

Oh how I wish I could have spoken my mind that day just over a year ago.

I would tell you to keep your bratty kid away from my daughter.

I would tell your kid what a brat she is, and that she better not knock on my door ever again.

I would tell you if you have a problem with me, then you come tell me to my face.

Then I would tell those in charge that I know of other things happening that I have kept to myself.  After all, one tattle deserves another.

Arggh, I Did it Again

Well, today’s drivel from Lori was so infuriating I could not even finish reading.

Women should not go to college!  Oh my word!  I don’t care if you plan to be at home and not work.  God does not call anyone to be uneducated!   No where does scripture say we don’t need to have basic knowledge of more than scripture.

According to Lori and her minions who commented in agreement, public universities are evil and the more a woman learns the less content she will be at home.  I agree there are many problems in our state run universities.  Yes, there are Atheist professors, wild parties, etc.  There is also a severe need to “be in the world, but not of it”.  Aren’t we called to be salt and light?  Do we hide our lamp under a bushel and stay only in our church building and only hang with those who are like minded?

I attended public universities for my Bachelor’s and Master’s and only experienced one Atheist instructor who never pushed his unbelief.  The only way I found out was I was within earshot of a conversation after class.  The rest of the professors simply taught the subject matter we were there to learn (Trigonometry, Spanish, Lesson Planning, how to work a Smart Board etc… Even in the philosophy class I took, the professor never stated which beliefs he held.  He taught all of them.

OK, rant over.  Have a blessed day everyone, and be sure to stay stupid if you’re a woman.

Still Not Learning a Thing

Well, sometimes you just can’t turn away from a bad wreck.  I don’t know why but I can’t stop reading the “Always Learning” blog by Lori Alexander.  It only infuriates me.

She is constantly harping on women being the keepers of the home.  I get that. I do.  I was a stay-at-home mom for a while.  What bugs me is she is always preaching about keeping a neat, tidy house.  OK, I get that too, but she seems to think any woman who works outside the home must have a dirty, messy house because we can’t possibly have the time to properly clean.  Uh, yea you can.  I am very picky about my house and can’t stand a mess or clutter.  I’m one of those who can’t go to sleep with even one dirty dish in the sink, but let’s face it, there is only so much cleaning you can do.  I can scrub my whole bathroom in about 15 min.  I can dust in about that same amount of time.  Running the vacuum doesn’t take that long either.  Laundry won’t overflow if you do just one load a day.  When I did all the cleaning myself, I would do one task a day.  Now, my teenagers have chores, so life is even easier.  Keeping a neat house does not take long at all, and if you pick up behind yourself as you go, it will go even quicker.

I also shook my head at a comment from a woman who commented that she did not like to have play dates in the home because she would lose track of time and it would be 6:00 and her husband would come home and she had not even started dinner and kids and company were still there and toys were everywhere.  Oh my word!  So what if your kids had fun playing with their friends and your husband had to wait 30 min or so for dinner?  What is the problem?  My husband wouldn’t care.  He would simply tell the kids it was time to clean up the toys and either help me with dinner or change clothes and go finish up some work while I cooked.  Not a big deal, but your’re a feminist if you don’t have dinner ready the second your man comes in the door.  Uh, mine actually likes to cook, and it’s a way we spend time together.  Sure, he likes the house kept reasonably neat, but when our kids were little, he knew toys would be out.  We just taught them to put them away when they were finished.

It just makes me sad to see young women falling for this BS.

The Intolerance of the Tolerant

For goodness sake, can people stop calling anyone who disagrees with them a bigot or a hater?  I’m so tired of those who preach tolerance being so intolerant.

Those who think homosexuality is a sin are called homophobes, bigots, etc.  First of all the practice of homosexuality is indeed a sin.  The Bible is very clear on that.  However, it is no different than any other sin.

For those who say people are born that way, well, we all are.  We are all born with a sinful nature.  Sure, we can’t help who we are attracted to, but we can control how we act on those attractions.  My husband and I have a dear friend who struggles with same sex attraction.  However, he acknowledges that it is wrong and chooses to stay celibate.  He says having self control (though hard at times) is no different than two straight people who are not married that choose to practice abstinence before marriage, or someone who does the right thing by not sleeping with someone else’s spouse.  God expects them to do the right thing, so if  controlling oneself is good enough for them, then it is good enough for him.

Our neighbors are lesbians.  They are very kind people.  My husband has shoveled their driveway when one of them had surgery and I made a meal for them.  They have helped us and shared things with us as well.  We don’t hate them.  I don’t look at them any differently than my cousin who is living with her boyfriend.

I’m not a homophobe or bigot for supporting traditional marriage.  Heterosexuals don’t have the “right” to marry.  Marriage isn’t a “right” for anyone.  Same sex couples have the same rights as any citizen.  They can get a power of attorney so their partner can make medical decisions, they can name their partner as beneficiary on insurance policies. They can get a joint bank account.  They can rent an apartment together.  None of those things require them to be married.

We are all created by God in His image, so let’s all get along and stop the name calling just because someone doesn’t agree with you.