Well, Josh and Anna Duggar celebrated their anniversary recently. Yesterday Lori, the all knowing, self appointed spokesperson for God, praised Anna for standing by her man. She praised the Duggars and their love for the Lord, yada, yada, yada…Then why do they talk about their dumb, suffocating rules more than Jesus? Legalism much? I believe Jesus called people like them, Pharisees.
Don’t get me wrong. I am all for forgiveness and working out problems in a marriage. However, in this situation, Anna is either being incredibly naive or just plain stupid. Josh is only sorry he got caught. He would likely still be continuing his bad behavior if he had not been busted. People seem to forget that.
Lori harps on how much God hates divorce. Well, sure it’s not His plan, but neither is harming children. If Josh does anything to those girls, God will also hold Anna accountable for not protecting them. I commented on Lori’s blog that Anna let Josh come home too soon if she was going to stay with him. It takes a long time to rebuild trust. Someone had the audacity to say that Anna could not be in charge of when he came home because that would put her in authority over her husband. I just could not believe that comment. Any clever responses would be welcome.
What amazes me is the fans that dismiss his actions as being a child. Um no, 14 is old enough to know better and even be tried as an adult for some crimes. I will give him some understanding and say that his idiot parents are to blame as well. If Josh had been allowed to interact with other girls and not have to witness his pervert father hump his mother constantly, he may not have taken his normal teenage curiosity to his sisters. That said, even a 14 year old should not be curious about a five-year-old. Fortunately, the second scandal with the porn star did not indicate that he was still into little girls. So I suppose that is a good thing. I just hope Anna is watching him closely.
Well, today was the same old drivel from Her Highness, Mrs. Lori. Stay home Mother’s are the only ones who care about their children. All children want to be cooped up in the house all day. As she has said in the past, you shouldn’t go anywhere because play dates will lead to the mothers gossiping and the children might mess up the other house before the mighty king husband comes home. We also must not forget that the mothers might get sidetracked with their gossiping and not make it home in time to make the king’s dinner.
I do have to admit I believe there are some moms that could stay home if they cut back spending. The biggest factor in the decision is the husband’s salary and job security. If the husband only makes minimum wage, and there are even 2 chikdren, it won’t work. In my stste, the minimum wage is only $ 7.35 an hr. Sure, most men make more than thst, but the average rent on a 2 bedroom apt. Is $915.00. So even $9.00 or $10.00 an hr is still not enough if you are going to properly care for children without govt. help. And don’t get me started on the time she said schools shouldn’t have a free lunch program.
Sone readers on Lori’s blog brag about how they have a ton of kids and make it on less than $30,000 or even $25,000. That would be a red flag for me to suggest a Social Services visit to make sure those children have enough food. clothes, etc.
I don’t always have creative ideas for my writing, but a few months ago I discovered a blog that infuriates me most of the time. I know, I know. Then why do I read it? Well, it’s one of those train wrecks that you just have to look. So yeah, I read it to see what drivel she is spouting for the day.
If you don’t know, her name is Lori Alexander. I do have to admit she shares some decent, Biblical principles. My problem is her broad negative assumptions about women while almost idolizing men. Women are controlling, wasteful, and only work outside the home for material things and fancy vacations. I’m not kidding. She has said these things.
She can’t understand why people challenge her and say she hates women. She believes she is actually encouraging women and preaches Titus 2 like there aren’t 65 other books in the Bible. Of course, when she receives negative feedback, she will block you on fb or won’t approve your comment on her blog. http://lorialexander.blogspot.com/.
So I thought my responses would make good blog material.
In today’s post, the only way to have a happy, stable child is for them to have a stay-at-home-mom. I don’t think anyone would argue that a child having a mom at home full time is a good thing. However, it is not the ONLY way to have a happy, secure child. My mother had me at age 17 and worked all of my growing up years. I went to evil daycare and public school. Somehow, I managed to have a happy childhood and am close to my mother to this day. My husband had his mother at home full time, and now he can’t stand her. My grandmother was home with my mom and her sisters, and all of them got into some sort of trouble (which is why I arrived before my mother completed high school).
So, while children having a stay-at-home-mom is a good thing. It is no guarantee the children will not have issues.
It was September 1988. He was my college roommate’s boyfriend.
He thought of me as a “child” even though I am only 4 years younger.
He became my husband in June 1992.
I’m 45 and will be married for 24 years next week, but I don’t really feel old. I go to bed a little earlier, but I don’t feel old in my head or my heart. My body is holding up well with no aches or pains or other medical issues, though I do need glasses now. Some of my friends are already grandparents, but I still have young teens so maybe that’s why it hasn’t hit me yet that I should feel old.
We’ve done a lot together in our 24 years. There have been numerous jobs and moves. We’ve wanted to choke each other. We’ve cried together in happiness and sorrow, prayed together, and laughed together.
It’s hard to believe it has been 24 years since I was that wide eyed girl of 21 walking down the aisle.
I have been reading a lot about sex and marriage lately due to my current situation. Most articles seem to be from the perspective of the wife denying her husband, but I can tell you it goes both ways. I promise you, the hurt and pain are very real. I can tell you from my perspective what your man must feel like if you constantly refuse. It feels like a slap in the face night after night after night. He will feel ugly and undesirable. He will not want to do anything for you at all.He may even be tempted to get it somewhere else, and no I’m not blaming the woman if that happens. A man is responsible for his own actions. Two wrongs don’t make a right. I’m simply stating the possible results that are even in the Bible.
3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 1:Cor 7:3-5
My prayer is that young women would understand the needs of their husbands in that area. I’m not talking the Duggar extreme of being “joyfully available”. Where you can NEVER say no. Just be understanding and respect his desires.
I know many women scoff at the thought of pleasing their man. The feminist movement has made women feel they don’t have to think of anyone but themselves. They feel that being home raising children is not worthwhile. Yes, I know, I work outside the home, but my schedule is conducive to being home when my children are out of school or my job allows them to be with me.
Just my two cents…and to all the wives and moms out there… YOU ROCK!
Our marriage like any other has its ups and downs. We committed early on to never let divorce be an option however, I find myself thinking about actually considering a divorce more and more. I can’t seem to stop myself from seriously thinking about it. What else can you do when your spouse will hardly touch you? OK, so I get a “goodbye” peck in the morning, and a hug occasionally, but that’s all.
If I try to bring it up we end up in a huge fight. I’ve pretty much given up even trying. No one wants someone doing something with them when they know the person doesn’t want to. This has been going on for 7 years now. I’m going nuts!
All of this got me thinking. If divorce is not an option, then doesn’t it give a spouse license to do whatever he/she wants since they know you won’t leave?????
Lot’s of folks say to pray. Been there. Done that. Nothings is happening. I try to be quiet and not like the “dripping faucet” in the Bible. Still nothing. That just seems like silence is acceptance.
I know God does not want divorce, but it is soooooo hard.