A Sad Day in NY

My heart is heavy. It is mind boggling how New York could allow the murder of viable babies so close to birth.

Spare me the “the life of the mother” line.  There is NO medical condition that would require the ending of an unborn child’s life to save the mother.  Yes, some conditions may require premature delivery, and the baby may or may not make it. The point in such cases is to try to save the baby AND mom. There is no reason whatsoever to deliberately take the life of the child.

Then we have the “What if the child is severely deformed or is severely ill and is not expected to survive or have any quality of life?”  Well, if your already born child was found to have cancer or some other devastating condition that the docs missed, would you euthanize them?  If my child were severely ill and going to die, I’d have my child die in my arms being loved, not torn to bits in some inhumane fashion.

Finally, there are those who are concerned about cases of rape. I want to be careful with this one because I certainly don’t want to minimize the trauma a sexual assault causes, and I can certainly understand why a woman wouldn’t want to carry a child that was forced on her.  The issue is we live in a fallen, sinful world. God never promised we wouldn’t have bad things happen to us.  Someone who is hit by a drunk driver and becomes paralyzed doesn’t get to get up and walk again. Someone sexually assaulted by someone with AIDS isn’t spared from coming down with the disease because it was someone else’s sin.

I’m also not sure how an abortion is any better of an experience than labor and delivery. In any case, an abortion won’t erase the trauma.

I know some still don’t agree, but I just can’t find any reason to take the life of an unborn child. For those who can’t or don’t want to care for the child, there are Safe Haven Laws and adoption.

Just my thoughts.


Let’s Do Better Than Purity Culture

I was recently reading about the harmful effects of the purity movement.  While I do think God’s plan is for us to wait for marriage, this movement seems to have done more harm than good. These extreme Evangelicals twist God’s plan and cause unnecessary trauma.

Purity culture ties a woman’s value and worth to her virginity.  That is just sooooo wrong. Jesus did not treat the woman at the well like she was less than anyone else.  Sure, He told her He knew what she had done, but He still treated her with kindness. God even used the prostitute, Rahab, and saved her whole family from the destruction of Jericho.

God’s plan for us to wait until marriage is for our benefit.  Waiting until marriage prevents unwanted pregnancy and the spread of diseases. It can also prevent grief and heartache if a relationship doesn’t last, but it has absolutely nothing to do with how He values us as His children.  Our worth is not based on our virginity.

As a mom to two teenagers, I am encouraging them to wait on sex until marriage, but I don’t make them feel like they won’t be worth anything if they don’t.  I educate them and have them educate themselves.  When my daughter was 15, I had her research various forms of birth control and how they worked. Then, I had her find the failure rate for each.  After that, I had her research various STD’s and learn about the symptoms and treatments.

We need to stop the nonsense of making our worth based on virginity. Stop comparing people to used up pizza or a damaged bicycle. We’re human beings.  God’s plan for sex to be within marriage is simply for our benefit, nothing more. It doesn’t have anything to do with our worth in His eyes.


They Found Their Birthmother

Every now and then I scroll through my children’s birthmother’s fb page. We are not fb friends. she doesn’t even know who I am. I only know her name because it is in the adoption records, so out of curiosity I looked her up but never contacted her.

Shortly before Christmas I was scrolling through he page and was shocked to discover my daughter had found her. I gasped when I saw a picture of my children on her page with a caption about how happy she was they found her!  They are 14 and 15 now, so I suppose they are old enough, but I was hurt that they contacted her without talking to me.

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Dillard Gets the Ax From TLC

So the grifter Derick Dillard got the ax from TLC because of his tweets about fellow TLC star, Jazz.  While I don’t see his comments as hate, I do feel Derick should have left a minor/child out of the conversation.

The transgender issue is a very delicate one.  There are indeed medical conditions where a person is born with both male and female parts. There is also another condition where someone is born with female parts, but is genetically male. It has something to do with the fetus not being sensitive to the male hormones while in the womb, so the male parts don’t develop.

Mostly though, it is a mental health issue. It’s like an anorexic seeing himself/herself as fat when they’re not.  In those cases, family and friends do not go along with them in their misconception. They encourage therapy and try to help them see the reality that they are not fat and are dangerously thin.   Yet there are those who encourage gender dysphoria and support their loved one pumping his/her body with hormones or even mutilating their body.  As a 5′ white woman, if I got a dark spray tan and wore a wig andplatform shoes and tried to say i was a 5’10’ black woman, it would not be hate for someone to tell me that I’m not

What bothers me is those who will call the truth and say Jazz is a boy are labeled as haters or bigots. I do not hate transgender people, and would defend anyone who was being mistreated or bullied, but it’s not hate to say that Bruce Jenner is a man.  He can call himself Caitlyn, take hormones, cut certain parts off  and wear a dress, but he is still a man.  That said, if I were to ever see him in need, I would help just like I would anyone else.


Sweet Memories

This past father’s day was the first one without my dad. I spent a lot of time looking at pictures and remembering  the wonderful times in my childhood.  I remember Dunkin’ Donuts on Saturday mornings and grilling out hamburgers with friends on Saturday nights where all the kids would play and run around and my Dad and his BFF would tease and prank everyone. The burgers were on, rain or shine. My mom even has a pic to prove it.  My dad is grilling and his friend is holding the umbrella.

I’ve thought of both of them lot lately.  They are together causing trouble in Heaven now. LoL.  I’m sure the Lord has had to out them in “time out.”

This is Jesus dealing with them:


The Dangerous (Not Transformed) Wife

I have commented in the past on a woman named Lori Alexander who claims to be a Christian.  There is a list a foot long of how vile this woman is.

  • She flicked the cheeks of her infants if they bit her while nursing (like just unlatching them wouldn’t work).
  • She used a leather strap to swat her babies under a year old.
  • She gossips.
  • She deceived her husband by destroying her birth control so she could have a second baby and stay home because her lazy butt just didn’t want to work.
  • She says, “Pain is a great teacher.”
  • She does not tithe, but would expect her church to have the endless funds to support her if something happened to her husband.
  • She will delete any comments on her blog or fb page that disagree with her.
  • She gives dangerous medical advice like saying its OK to go ahead and have a c section even against a doctor’s advice.
  • She wipes up raw chicken juice and reuses the cloth without washing it, yet wants to judge people with messy homes because we all know that Jesus told Mary to get back in that kitchen and help Martha.
  • She judges other women for not cooking “nourishing” meals, but only fixes big salads at home.
  • She would love it if women were not allowed to vote.


But today was an all time low.   Lori doesn’t feel depression is real and you should just pray for a “sound mind”.  A woman commented today that she had considered taking her life this morning.  All she was told in response was to pray and read her Bible.  No offering support or telling her to talk to a friend or pastor. No telling he to call a suicide hotline…nothing.

Then, when another person was kind enough to offer support and a suicide hotline number, the comment was deleted.

That was it for me.  I will be doing anything I can to stop this woman, and since she will delete anything she doesn’t like. I will be commenting here.

Please, please, please, Stay away from this woman.


Gender Insanity

I recently discovered “Activist Mommy”.  I love, love, love her!  She speaks the truth and has some common sense.

Lets face it.  As much as someone may want to change his/her gender, you can’t. Activist Mommy is right.  If Bruce Jenner committed a crime and left DNA evidence, the police would determine the suspect was….wait for it…..MALE.  He can wear a dress and high heels, enlarge his boobs, and call himself Caitlyn all he wants. He’s still a man.

What I don’t understand is how people celebrate others mutilating their bodies.  Johns Hopkins will not perform gender reassignment surgery because they see it as a mental health issue much like an anorexic who sees herself/himself as fat when they are not. We would never encourage anorexia. We would encourage the person to get treatment not to mutilate their body.  So I’m with ‘ya Activist Mommy.

Check this out.   So true….