Archive | February 2016

And Still Some More Misused Scripture

All of the Duggar women have long hair.  Some of them have nice hair (Jana), yet there is a ratty mullet (uh hem, Michelle).  Anyway they do it because their cult leader, Bill Gotard misquotes the scripture in 1 Cor. 11:15  “but that if a woman has long hair, it is her glory? For long hair is given to her as a covering”

OK, so it says long hair is good, even her glory, but I don’t see any command to have long hair.

And then there is anger.  Bible scholar, Anna says it’s not Godly to be angry.  Let’s look at this one.

Ephesians 4:26  “Be angry, and sin not.”

Jesus even cleared the temple turning over tables.

Well, she should have turned over some tables on her pig husband, Josh.

Now, let’s talk about drinking.  Let me say, I don’t drink due to having some people I know and some family members who have drinking problems, so I don’t want to be a stumbling block.  However, the Bible says only to “be not drunk with wine” (Eph. 5:18).

Of course our dear Anna’s Bible expert, father claims the wine Jesus made was grape juice.

Well, if you could not get drunk off of wine, then why did the Lord say not to be drunk with it??????





More Misuse of Scripture by the Duggars

They don’t believe in dancing:
The good people at Godvine found these scriptures on dancing..
Judges 11:34 And Jephthah came to Mizpeh to his house, and, behold, his daughter came out to meet him with tambourines and with dances: and she was his only child; beside her he had neither son nor daughter.
Psalms 30:11 You have turned for me my mourning into dancing: you have put off my sackcloth, and girded me with gladness;
Psalms 149:3 Let them praise his name in the dance: let them sing praises to him with the tambourine and harp.
Psalms 150:4 Praise him with the tambourine and dance: praise him with stringed instruments and organs.
Ecclesiastes 3:4 A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
Jeremiah 31:13 Then shall the virgin rejoice in the dance, both young men and old together: for I will turn their mourning into joy, and will comfort them, and make them rejoice from their sorrow.
Then I found this.  The Duggars would DIE!

Stop Misusing Scripture

I came across this blog.  While some of the things written are wise, some can be infuriating.  Now, I am not a feminist nor a “man hater”.  I am fine with traditional gender roles, stayed home with my children when they were small etc…

What really makes me fume is the judgmental attitude toward anyone who does not think like her.  Then she won’t approve your comment if you disagree, so I thought I would respond on my own blog:

God does not have the same plan for all women.  There is no scripture forbidding a woman from working outside the home, nor is there a commandment to stay home.  That is between a wife, her husband, and God.  If you read one of my previous posts, I stated that the woman in Proverbs 31 likely had to leave home some of the time to accomplish the things she did. It mentions she had servants. Hmmm, maybe to stay with the children so she could tend to business???  There is also not a command to have 19 kids.  The misuse of scripture is awful.  Yes, a man is blessed if his “quiver” is full of children, but it does not command you to be stupid and have more than you can manage.  For some, a quiver could be filled with 2, 3, or 5.

Don’t tell me I can’t make nutritious meals because I work outside the home.  You do know what a freezer is, right?  It’s very easy to cook a double recipe of something and freeze half for later.  Just like when we grill out steaks and freeze the extra so we can enjoy a steak dinner on a busy weeknight as well.  And guess what, you can pre cut veggies, and cook meat ahead of time to make life easier as well.

BTW, sure, I don’t mind cooking dinner and serving my family, but if my husband comes home while I’m fixing dinner and joins in, that is OK.  Cooking is something we like to do together like a hobby.  Get a grip, Lady.

Don’t tell me I can’t keep a clean house because I work either.  My husband is kind enough to pick up behind himself most of the time.  My teens have chores.  We all contribute.

Easy clean up tip:  before going to bed, take about 10 min and have everyone go through an area of the house and put away anything still out of place.

Yes, I do believe my husband is the leader and the head of the house.  I am fine with being his help mate (yes, that’s help MATE, not MEET).


Anyway, if you feel led, please bombard this misguided woman with the truth!  She follows Michael and Debi Pearl who are vile extremists that believe in spanking even infants as young as 4 months old. Yes, that’s 4 MONTHS old, not four years old.   Just Google “To Train Up a Child”  Let her know your thoughts on that as well if you wish.


Pearl 2



Can’t We All Just Get Along?

Some women believe if you live by traditional gender roles, you’re out of touch and weird. You’re living in the 1950’s.  They don’t see the value of having a mother at home.  Cooking and cleaning is beneath them and not worthwhile.

Other women think if you work outside the home you must be a “man hating” feminist and neglect your children if you don’t home school.

Why can’t we all just get along?  Why be so judgmental?  God has different plans for all of us.  Why can’t we just accept our “sisters” without criticizing their choices?

I’d say I am a mix of the two worlds of womanhood.   We do have some old fashioned gender roles in our family. I do defer to my husband on big decisions as he is the head of the house,  but he doesn’t control my every move and often tells me to do whatever I want. He does the yard work. I handle things for the children.

On the other hand, we all pitch in on cooking and cleaning, even our teenagers.

As my husband’s help mate, I have decided to work outside the home to help with savings. We could pay the bills on one income, but college and (I can’t believe I’m about to say this), retirement will come before we know it.

It is so frustrating to be judged.  God doesn’t have the same path for everyone in life. Recently, I was told feminist views have no place in the church.  OK, first of all, I am not a feminist.  I am very conservative (pro life, traditional marriage, etc.).  Here is a big one…I don’t hate men either.

After studying Proverbs 31, I can find no command for a woman to just stay home and have babies.  She was a business woman who considered a field and bought it. She selected wool and flax and made clothes to sell. She had employees because it states she gave things to her servants.  Now, in order to consider a field she would have to leave home to go inspect it.  Also, she would have to leave home to select the wool and flax to make her clothes.

So there, rant over : )


Adoption Doesn’t Have to Cost an Arm and a Leg

This morning I commented on a post concerning adoption, and I thought what I shared might be useful for those looking to adopt.  Adoption doesn’t have to cost an arm and a leg.  What many private agencies charge is robbery (IMO).

If the unholy cost of adoption is stopping you, check out your local social services agency.  That is where my husband and I finally adopted.  It was way cheaper, and since we got a brother and sister at the same time, one fee for approval took care of both children.

I can only speak for South Carolina, but the fee there was $1000.00 in 2006.  It covered the home study, background check and fire/safety inspection.  It is nothing major. The social worker comes to see the home and the room(s) the child will have.  The fire dept. comes to make sure you have smoke detectors, a fire extinguisher, and that you have drawn an escape plan.

The only additional fees are the ones from the attorney you choose, and the court costs to complete the paperwork.  That was around another $700.00 in our case.  We also had to get physicals, so that would depend on insurance and the doctor’s fee.

Just thought I would share this in case anyone out there in blog land is looking to adopt, but wondering how to come up with the massive amount of money.  You don’t need to go to a private agency that will charge thousands and thousands of dollars to set you up with a birth mother who can possibly want you to cover her medical expenses and who still has the right to change her mind without having to repay you.  The agency will not return any money either.  We started our adoption journey with a private agency, and learned the hard way.  We were chosen by two different birth mothers who both changed their minds at the last minute, and the agency couldn’t have cared less.  Fortunately, we never agreed to pay any medical expenses for these girls.

OK, rant over.  I highly recommend checking out your local social services.  You will likely have to take a child a little bit older as they don’t have many infants (ours were 3 and 4), but, 10 years later we have two beautiful, healthy teenagers.

I Saw Him

My mother and I talked a little bit about my birth father and his family recently.  She has always been uncomfortable talking about them because she has bad memories of whatever situation happened when I was born, so i have tried to respect her feelings.  I did meet my birth grandmother years ago. She is a very nice lady.

About a month ago, I was trolling facebook and discovered my biological cousin.  She has some mutual friends as me.  We even went to school together for a short time, but I did not know who she was.  According to my mother, she knew who I was, but had been instructed not to tell me who she was.

Just for “gee wiz”, I sent her a friend request, and she accepted.  Well, well, well, lo and behold as I looked through some of her pics, I saw him…my birth father.  It just made me feel weird for some reason.