Is it mean for me to go on strike? I am so tired of being the first to make contact with others. I just realized that I am the first to call/text several of my friends, even my bestie since 4th grade. We may comment or like something on fb, but not many call or text to just say hi. I thought it sucked always having to be the one to initiate with my husband. This isn’t even “that kind of initiation”. It sucks even with your friends.